To all whom I don’t talk to anymore


We don’t talk anymore like we used to.

But I’m the person I am today because of you. So, thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

To acquaintances,

You might not remember my name or who I am. But that’s OK. I might not remember yours too but I do remember your face.

And yes, I guess I’m guilty of not saying “hi” when I saw you on the streets.The world is small, after all. Singapore is even smaller.

But that’s not because I don’t want to see you. Well, I’m just afraid if I said “hi” and I get greeted with a look like as if I’m from another planet. No one likes that. Alright, that’s a bad excuse to not at least say “hi”. No? I’m not the only one who thinks that way?

Nevertheless, thank you for being a part of my life.

To hi-bye friends,

We might not remember each other’s names too (we used to, I hope) but at least, we said “hi” and “bye” every time we see each other like as if we’re the best of friends! But we all know that’s just courtesy.

Still, we were once friends who talked, right? People don’t start off as hi-bye friends off the bat. Usually, people reduce to hi-bye friends because of graduation, change of jobs, quarrels, life-changing events, etc.

We were friends because we needed each other’s help. I get it, you get it, people get it. I still wished that we could have brought our friendship a step further, though. Maybe something good could have happened?

Of course, we could be hi-bye friends now because our last conversation was a heated one and it’s just awkward to totally not talk to each other anymore.

So at the very least, we would acknowledge each other’s presence on this Earth. Other than that, we wouldn’t even know if either of us was dead. That’s fine, I guess.

Despite all that, thank you for being a part of my life.

To good friends,

I remember you, your face and your voice (and name, of course). I remember the conversations we had and the times we spent together because we were once part of each other’s lives.

I remember. Do you?

It’s alright if you don’t, though.

Nevertheless, you taught me more about yourself, your values and beliefs. Most importantly, you taught me more about myself.

Regardless how much you’ve impacted my life, you did — and that’s all that matters to me. Because through our experiences together, I found myself. I hope you’ve found yourself, too.

We might had had our differences and our fair share of conflicts and disagreements. But that allowed me to understand human relationships more. That allowed me to understand you.

I don’t mean to sound cheesy but… You were once an essential part of my life — that’s why we were good friends. But now, for whatever reason, we don’t talk anymore.

It might be because of a life-changing moment (marriage, change of job, migration, etc.) or we fell out because of some unsolvable differences. Maybe time just caused us to drift apart. That’s life, right?

I wish the best for you. If you do see me, please wave and say “hi”, at the very least. I most definitely would.

Thank you for being an essential part of my life and helped in my growth.

It is (all of) you who shaped the person I am today. And you will always be a part of who I am in the future, too. Every single experience I had had with everyone in my life is a small puzzle piece that forms the entire person that I am.

I hope I am a small puzzle piece of your life as well.

We might not be in each other’s lives any more but we’ll always live in each other’s memories.

Even if we don’t talk anymore like we used to.

About the author

Vance Wong

Brain-picker. Cinephile. Koreaboo.


by Vance Wong


Vance Wong

Brain-picker. Cinephile. Koreaboo.